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Proverbs 13:20: He who walks with wise men will be wise,<\/strong>
\nBut the companion of fools will suffer harm<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Growing up my youth pastor often looked at us teens and said the following words: \u201cshow me your friends; I\u2019ll show you your future.\u201d With those words he filled us with either hope \u2026 or concern \u2013 depending on who was sitting next to us! And with those words, he summarized Proverbs 13:20.<\/p>\n

As much as we like to tell ourselves we are our own unique person uninfluenced by others, that simply isn\u2019t the case. The people we surround ourselves with in the present often influence our view of God and his world and as well as our response to them. The present will in some way influence our future.<\/p>\n

The principle from Prov. 13:20 is that walking with people who embody and display wisdom in the present will result in personal wisdom down the road. The one who does the same with fools, however, will not walk away unscathed. Personal harm, not personal wisdom, awaits them.<\/p>\n

So, what does this mean for us? Fathers, my guess is you long to see your children form good friendships with good friends. You want them on the path to wisdom, not harm. With truth from God\u2019s Word and personal experience, you likely see the friends of your children with greater clarity than they possess.<\/p>\n

Prov. 13:20 – For Fathers<\/strong><\/h2>\n

But Fathers, I want to start with you. For you cannot give your children what you do not possess. In 1 Cor. 11:1 Paul did not merely say \u201cfollow Christ\u201d but \u201cfollow me as I follow Christ.\u201d Can you not only say \u201cSon, walk with the wise\u201d but \u201cfollow me as I walk with the wise\u201d?<\/p>\n

The word \u201cwalk\u201d does not merely refer physical walking but to those we allow to influence our lives. Fathers, who are those people in your life? Who would your children say is your closest friend(s) (besides your spouse)? If they can\u2019t answer that question, perhaps that leads to another. Do your children view you as a lone ranger? Do they think, \u201cDad is a dad. Dads don\u2019t need friends\u201d? That may sound macho, but it doesn\u2019t sound biblical. Fathers, we need the church. We need accountability. We need encouragement. We need truth from God\u2019s Word from the mouths of others. The Christian life is not a solo sport. May your children see and know that you don\u2019t walk alone. You walk with the wise.<\/p>\n

And that brings us back to our first question. Are the people you \u201cwalk\u201d with wise? Do your children look up to the men you surround yourself with? After basketball, golf, coffee (if you\u2019re into that), or Men of Faith with those men, do you come home refreshed and ready to love your family?<\/p>\n

What about the people you don\u2019t physically walk with, but walk with nonetheless? Would your favorite books, Facebook friends, and Twitter feed (\u201cX\u201d feed?… whatever Twitter is called these days) classify you as someone who walks with the wise? Or would it classify you as the companion of fools? Fathers, show me your friends (you golf buddies, your entertainment, and your social media) and I\u2019ll show you your future. Show me your friends and I\u2019ll show you the example before your children.<\/p>\n

Prov. 13:20 \u2013 For Children<\/strong><\/h3>\n

Now ask those same questions of your child.<\/p>\n

Consider this. Children are to obey and honor their parents (Eph. 6:1) and you are to bring them up in the instruction of the Lord (Eph. 6:4). However, there will likely come a time when your child would rather listen to the instruction of their friends. They would rather give honor to their peers than their parents. I don\u2019t bring that up to justify those decisions, but to remind you your child will experience that pull within their heart. But what if the friends around your child are wise? What if, when your child feels that pull, the \u201cinstruction\u201d of their friends is to obey God? What if their friends help them obey and honor you? Help your child develop godly friendships with godly friends. Point out the Christlike character in their friends. Pray for their friends.<\/p>\n

A Final Word <\/strong><\/h3>\n

Is Prov. 13:20 saying we should never talk with unbelievers? If your child is placed in a group at school with someone the Bible would label a fool, should they ignore them? Certainly not. Jesus called us to be salt and light (Matt. 5:13-16). We are to stand out and point others to Jesus. Jesus loved us when we were sinners and far from him, and we are to do the same to others. However, there is a difference between loving someone toward Jesus and becoming like them. There is a difference between being a friend to someone and being, as our Proverb says, their companion. Jesus was called a friend of sinners, but he didn\u2019t \u201cwalk\u201d with them. We should follow Jesus\u2019 example in loving those around us while following the wisdom Prov. 13:20 in choosing those who will influence our view of God and his world and our response to them. May we all (Grandmas, grandpas, fathers, mothers, singles, and children) be those who walk with the wise that we may become as they are, wise.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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